Nine months after returning from parental leave, Anne, who had built a successful management career in Silicon Valley, was debating whether to resign. She was working for a company that proudly pledged to support working parents, and she had a committed, hands-on husband and a mother who provided childcare. Yet, despite the support, a mounting sense that thriving in one domain meant short-changing the other had Anne feeling stuck: “I feared I wouldn’t be able to re-enter the workforce — that I was glamorizing the grass on the other side when, in actuality, I might feel isolated, lonely, or stigmatized as ‘just a stay-at-home mom’ in our Silicon Valley bubble.” For Anne, the choice to stay or go was both obvious and impossible.
You’ve Reached an Inflection Point in Your Career. What Now?
Points of inflection — life’s what now? moments — emerge frequently across our professional and personal lives. They can arise from difficulty, like when we lose a job unexpectedly or are forced to deal with a chronic illness, or in the wake of exciting new opportunities. Whatever the catalyst, points of transition can feel threatening. Research suggests that typical reactions range from avoiding the problem by retreating or postponing to knee-jerk pivots or the search for quick fixes.
Examining our first reaction to destabilizing change invites us to explore the possibilities that exist beyond our initial impulse. This requires having the humility to recognize that even the most well-trained and talented among us can become unsure, unsettled, and reactive when operating in unfamiliar terrain. Developing a practice of pausing to regulate, resource, and reorient before we respond can counteract the threat response and help us to be more curious and creative in the face of what now? moments, even when we’re not sure what comes next.